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How did it go ladies? Did you try the first 3 techniques?

I admit I was skeptical.  The first three just didn’t sound like much but I went ahead and gave it a go and the results were amazing!  I got pictures hung and the bed made all on the same day!  And even better, Rob suggested we snuggle up and just talk at the end of the day!  And that was after only trying out the first three.  Hmm… perhaps there was something to this.  I know I was wowed!   

The Bible tells us in Genesis 2 the “Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” NLT 

For us girls, this is one of our main mission assignments from God:  We were made to help our men.  And if a simple wow compliment is helpful to Rob, then I’ve been given an easy assignment.   It is a win-win situation.  Rob wins and is a stronger man when I encourage him.  When he feels good about himself and in our relationship, I win too!  Our marriage is strengthened and I have the satisfaction of knowing that we are creating a healthy home for our children.  Great peace comes in living out God’s mission for my life.   Wow is right!

Secret Wow Words

Today I tried out the next 3 Wow Compliments suggested by David Zinczenko.  I enjoyed throwing warm fuzzies at Rob and from the smile on his face, he enjoyed receiving them just as much.  Are you just dying to know what the magical compliments are?   Well here is what Mr. Z says:

4.   “You the man.”

Guys hear this all the time. From other guys. They hear it at work, on the golf course, and when one dude from the group buys the beer. But if it comes from a woman — no matter the context — the message is that, hey, we’re buddies, too. Which Mr. Z says, “is actually pretty darn sexy.” 

5.   “The kids just adore you.”

More than 50 percent of men say that their families — more so than work and salary — are what defines them most as men. So when a woman affirms that he’s a familial hero, it’s a compliment that stretches way beyond anything you could ever say about his haircut.

6.   “What do you think?”

We’ve all seen it a million times with long-married couples: They engage in cerebral power struggles, where neither can concede on anything — whether it’s the best way to move a piece of furniture or the fastest way to reach the interstate. I’m not saying that men should have the only say in decisions, but some guys do feel like they actually have very little.

I gotta sign off now.  I am going to try out the next 3 wow phrases.  I’ll get back to you with the results.  In the meantime, why don’t you try them out on your man?  Let me know how it works for you.

This weekend my husband, Rob begins a new series entitled, “Friends With Benefits” (send all emails to Paul Allen at Southbrook Church ). Even though we know there will be some flak from those who do not stop long enough to consider the fact that the church must address this, we anticipate God moving in a huge way! We’ll be addressing relational myths of all kinds and I thought I’d kick things off with a few benefits we wives can give our husbands to spruce up the relationship!

These have stuck with me for a while now and I thought I would pass them on. It’s called the top ten compliments that wow a man. I’ll share a few each time I blog…

A few months back, an article posted online by David Zinczenko caught my eyes with this headline: 10 Compliments that Wow a Man. I have no idea who Mr. Z is, but I’m always looking for ways to wow Rob so I read on. The author’s position was that from an early age men “get hammered with the same message about how to treat women: More compliments, more listening, more romance.” He agreed that this was all “well and good” but felt that men really got the short end of the stick in the compliment department. His statistics showed that 70% of men wished they received regular compliments from their women. Intrigued by the suggestion, I asked Rob if he agreed. He did! Which made me realize I’d been a bit slack in this department. So I determined to try out a couple of Mr. Z’s Compliments on Rob. Wanna know what the secret “wow words” are? Well then, here you go:

1. “Your arms are definitely looking bigger.”

Men can be just as paranoid about the way their bodies look as women can be. In fact, nearly 90 percent of men in a national Men, Love & Sex survey say there’s at least one body part they’d like to change (42 percent saying they want a new gut). While men don’t necessarily want women to lie if they’re out of shape, it never hurts to notice he’s looking good — or at least trying to look better.

2. “Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.”

Guys spend all of high school, the better part of the work day, and at least 12 times a day via e-mail trying to make people laugh. Because men value their sense of humor as one of their most important qualities, a hearty, genuine laugh is as flattering as it gets.

3. “Wow.”

Doesn’t matter whether it comes as he’s getting undressed or after you’ve finished having sex, this short, sweet word (best done in a whisper) may just be the ultimate ego-stroke. A picture may say a thousand words, but this three-letter word sums up roughly 10,000 of them.

Aren’t these great?

Well, until next time.

Cya!

Not!

I can’t believe I’m actually doing this. But those of you who know Rob also know that it was only a matter of time before he wore me down and made me cross over to the dark side.

So this is a blog, huh?

Doesn’t seem all that tough. Maybe I can do this after all, but I should probably let you all know of the nonnegotiable ground rules I set forth to Rob so that you don’t expect too much. Here they are in no particular order:

1. I will not write EVERY SINGLE DAY like Rob. I’m not married to this thing.

2. I may very well throw in a blog or two that are no more than a few sentences. I like reading those so why not do a few. Every post doesn’t need to be a novel (somebody please tell Rob this!).

3. It will not interfere with the following; 5:45 AM aerobics, bootcamp training, American Idol (I know, but everyone has a vice or two), weekly tea parties with my daughter, Juliana, nor will it interfere with Nathan and I shooting toilet plungers at each other in Rayman Raving Rabbids Two on the Nintendo Wii.

4. Late night talks in our sunroom with my husband (Pastor Rob). One blog is enough competition for that already!

5. Date night (seems like everything conspires against this already).

6. Quiet Time with the Lord

7. My Patients.

8. Friends and extended family

9. Activities of daily living (Ha! That covers a lot!).

10. Nocturnal activities (i.e. SLEEP)

Now, if there’s anything left after all that…I just might blog.See you then!